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The first love is nearly always an unlucky one. I have never heard of a couple who met through a first-love experience.
For some reason, I believe that first love shapes your mental image of an ideal partner, of how a person of the other sex ought to behave. Deep down, this image survives, comparable to what Jung called the »shadow« or the »anima,« etc.
It may explain a lot. I am well aware that this is unprovable, or, if the reader will allow this remark, not impossible to prove in principle, but very hard to verify and of little practical use to psychologists, since we lack a record of a given subject’s romantic history.
If you see a woman falls in love with the same typ of men and you know she kowns, this guys are not good; if you see a men excel for the attention of some questionable woman – you will suddently understand. The image of the first love, powerful, pause, lurking, has projected his energy.
I feel no regret about my first love anymore. Sure, I would have wished for a brighter girl to fall for. However...
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